So many people profess to love you and say they are loyal yet the first sign that their ego may be threatened and they will cut your throat, metaphorically speaking of course. Here is a news flash, for most people are loyal only at the wims of their own ego! And what exactly is this ego anyway. In a nut shell, its all that you think that you are..more on that later!
True loyalty does not fade or diminish just because your friend or family does not behave or act in a way that you deem to be satisfactory. What about the months, years or decades of great love or friendship? If you are loyal, you stay loyal…most cannot, then they are not your real friends. Don’t say to someone that you are a loyal friend and then keep secrets behind their back.
The worst kind of loyalty is to say to a friend ” I have heard things about you but I cannot tell you who has been talking about you.” That is deceitful friendship. If you are truly a loyal friend, and someone is talking about you behind your back, you will say; ” I am sorry that you are talking about such and such this way, and I will have to tell them what you have said.” That is a mark of a loyal friend that will watch your back no matter what, and this is usually because they have a deep love and respect for you as a human and your humaness and not for who they think you are.
How many of these friends (including family) do you really have?
Don’t make a mistake, don’t slip up, don’t be human, because if you do, you will see who your real friends are when the dust settles. Remember what Jesus said ” he who has never sinned let him be the first to cast the stone.”
Your ego is your driving force! It is what compels you to comment. Teaching some one about their ego is the most dangerous path because it will threaten the fabric of their very existence. Funny because it is only through the release of the ego that ends suffering and opens the way to true consciousness, true happiness and true bliss. This cannot be understood by the conscious mind as it is the ego trying to understand the ego, or as they say in Japan, “the sword cannot cut itself.”
So when I hear someone say that such and such is all ego or has a big ego, I have to agree, but not in their sense of what ego is. We are all ego, so you cannot have a big ego as ego is all there is in most people and they are compelled, driven by it, and unless there is an opening or understanding of what ego really is, the monkey will always be driving your bus and there will always be suffering.
I tried to teach this at my martial arts school but only save this most valuable lesson for my most loyal students.