Honour friendship. Don’t discriminate family and friendship. Don’t treat your friends well and your family badly. My closest friend said to me recently, don’t argue with your partner, treat him/her badly then smile at the first stranger that you see in the street.
Respect your friends simply for whom they are. Don’t expect them to change. If your needs are not being met in a friendship, it’s your stuff, don’t dump it on a friend. Look at yourself honestly and with courage. Take ownership of your own baggage work at changing yourself from the inside out. I always say that a leopard can’t change its spots, but we can all change the way we identify with every situation, changing from the inside.
Everything we see, hear, touch or taste is neutral, how we feel about it is the slant we put on it. We can change the way we identify by simply being and remaining as present in the here and now as possible and not applying an opinion or attitude towards it.
In friendship we easily identify with how a person should or should not behave. How many friends can we truly say we treat with total love and neutrality? No matter what they say or do I will still be your friend (family included). This takes courage, to be that way you need to self love, knowing that the behaviour of your friend is their stuff and cannot in any way effect your reality. Only you can do that by identifying with what is said or done.
This takes consciousness. Conscious friendship removes boundaries, opens doors, melts differences, forgives and understands. Being a conscious friend exposes who you are. It opens you up as you are willing to show all that you stand for and not hide behind the thin illusion of ego.
I laugh with joy – fully. I cry with sadness – fully, I am not afraid. My strength is my softness, My power is my open heart. My courage is to confront who I am not. I am. I am your friend.
– Andy –